How to Recognise Your Defense Mechanism wt Victor Osioh DE053DiasporaAdmin
6 Defense Mechanism
You Don’t Even Know That
You’re Using There are some pretty amazing defense mechanisms in
nature. Sea slugs squirt out their own intestines to
make a veiled escape. Birds like peacocks and turkeys
ruffle their feathers. Small animals like bugs and
frogs carry poisons and colors on their backs to scare
away predators—or punish stubborn ones. But when it
comes to people, there may be a few defense mechanisms
you’re using yourself that you barely recognize.
Sometimes an event or circumstance is so
cataclysmicly devastating, we just tune it out, and
don’t even know we’re doing it. You can become aware
of your denial when other people around you call
something to your attention.
This is sort of like denial, but it
involves burying a thought of feeling deep inside,
where it tends to come out in other ways. For example,
you could be furious at your boss, and unable to
release your anger at work, become vitriolic and
argumentative at home.
It’s often easier to ignore our own
faults, and pretend like other people have them instead.
Projection involves seeing something bad in other
people, which may or may not be there (like a negative
character trait) when really, you are exhibiting that
This one involves taking a wrongdoing by you on others,
or from others onto you) and reasoning it out to be okay.
You’ll have to create a complex new system of logic in
order to work this one into the universe in an acceptable
way, but all sorts of crime from embezzlement to genocide
have been rationalized as acceptable.
Regression basically involves taking a step back
developmentally, to a space where it’s physically or
emotionally safe. Children often regress as they move
through life, going through periods where they revert
to acting like a younger child. Adults may also
undergo this process. For example, after getting fired
from a job, you may revert to the safety net of
looking for a comparably paying job, instead of
searching for something better.
Sometimes the primal instincts take over, and we get
ready to fight. In situations that don’t have a lot of
time around them, you can quickly jump into a reactionary
mood before reflecting and calming down...for example,
if someone cuts you off in traffic, you could step into
a mode of road rage; or, if someone argues with you at
work, you could quickly defend yourself by escalating
the situation into a shouting match.
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